To make a better decisions first stop proceeding with a poor decision.

Avoid indecision and half-decisions based on half-truths.

Use both parts of a reliable system to consistently make better decisions: a cool head and a warm heart.

Use Head: by asking a practical question

And

Consult Heart: by asking a private question.

Listen to self and others – make a better decision and act on it.

Use Head:

YES ____ OR NO ______

Consult Heart:

YES ____ OR NO ______

Meeting the Real Need:

Pursuing only the real need in the very beginning gets better results in the end. This means both seeing a vision of needed results in such real detail that one senses already achieving them and then doing only what meets the real need.

Wants are wishes. Needs are necessities. Needs are essential for success and fulfillment.

To see what one merely wants, ask "What do I want to do now?" To see what is really needed, Ask "What would I like to have done?"

What do I really need from this decision? For me and for others to feel successful & fulfilled? Is my vision clearly focused on the needed results? Am I saying "Yes" to only what meets the real need, and "No" to everything else? Am I meeting the real need?

I use my head by asking myself a practical question.

YES ____ OR NO ______

 Informing myself of Options::

First, I realize I probably have several options I am not aware of.

As I gather the needed information, I become more aware of my options.

I choose the option which meets the real need.

Information is a collection of facts and feelings: that is, what really is & how people feel about it.

I gather the needed information. I observe it, or if someone gives me the information, I verify it.

Do I have the information I need? Who has it? Where is it? What is the best way to get it? Have I verified it myself?

As I gather the needed information, what do I see my options are? Am I informing myself of Options?

YES ____ OR NO ______

 Thinking it through

My past decisions are my own best mentors. Looking at them realisitically can teach me more than any person to avoid illusion and see reality.

As I look at my results, I am not too hard on myself. I lighten up. I did the best I know how.

Now I get better results because I focus on meeting the real need, informing myself of options, and thinking things through to a better result.

To see how good my results are, I measure them against my meeting the real need.

What would the results have to be to fill the real need? If I act on my decision, what would probably happen? Then what?… Then What?

What do I fear would be the worst result? What would the best result be? What would I do in the worst/best case? How clearly do I foresee the most likely results? For me? For others? Have I thought it through?

YES ____ OR NO ______

 My integrity

My poor decisions were based on illusions I believed at the time. My better decisions are based on realities I recognize in time.

The sooner I see the truth, the sooner I make a better decision.

The better decision is based on the simple answer as it eventually becomes the obvious answer.

To discover the truth, I look for the fiction I want to believe is true but cannot really count on.

We see each other’s mistakes more easily, so I often park my ego & ask others what they can see and then I notice what really feels true to me.

Have I looked closely enough at my past decisions to learn from them? Have I done a reality check by observing what is really going on around me and within me? Have I noticed the obvious? Do I see the truth? Am I telling myself the truth?

YES ____ OR NO ______

 My intuition

The more I use my intuition to look at how I feel about how I am making my decision, the more I protect myself from making costly mistakes.

How I feel about how I make a decision often forecasts my results.

I will not make my decision based on fear, as fear has never brought me very good results.

I may make a much better decision when I am guided not by my ego but by my ‘better guide’.

Do I feel: stressed or peaceful? Clear or confused? Drained or Energized? Fearful or Enthusiastic? Egotistical or Guided?

What would I decide if I were not afraid?

Does this decision really feel right to me? As right as seeing a favorite color, or meeting a close friend, or taking a peaceful walk?

If it doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t, and I need to change my decision. Am I trusting my intuition?

YES ____ OR NO ______

 My Insight

My decisions are affected by my beliefs, especially about what I really believe Ideserver.

To discover what I really believe, I look closely at what I most often do.

I may think I deserve better, but my actions show me that sometimes I do not really believe I do.

The key to my consistently making better decisions is to choose to believe I deserve better & then to act on that belief.

Have I looked closely enough at my past decision & actions to discover what I really believe I deserve? Do I see how my decisions reveal my beliefs? Do I believe enough in my decision to act on it soon? What would I decide to do now if I really believed I deserved better?