We attract what we deserve

Kishore (June 2003)

When I was much younger, just out of college, I believed I can choose how I want to live life. I thought things will happen as I want them to happen. As I started facing situations in life and gained more experience, I gradually started realizing that things seem to take their own "course" instead of what I expected. 

Some people like to call it fate, karma and luck when things do not go according to our wish. Instead of choosing to call it an external factor, I would like to call this an attraction force that we have which determines how things happen. Associating an external factor to events in our life, makes it appear as beyond our control. 

I would like to say lot of things happen in our life which have a cause in things which we willed and did in past. I want to share a few experiences which had a mysterious factors associated to it and end of it things happened for our "good". We may not realize the good in the short term and get upset and blame everyone. Ask many of the successful people, they will say the same things. Their success was not overnight thing. They worked hard, they had their worst moments, they had failures, they faltered. They overcame the problems and learned from experience. They gained wisdom and gradually learned a lot of things to face the life in a better way. 

I have noticed this happen in my kids experience, much more than in my own life at first. Then I started analyzing my own experiences and realized this. 

Example 1: When I was in India, we used to visit a grocery shop regularly. They had a lucky draw program for kids and we enrolled my daughter. Luckily she got one prize and due to this draw, some one came to our house and gave us a quick introduction on what they call "Learning to Read" Program. This is a book set worth around 10,000 Rs. which helps kids learn to read to faster. I felt it was good for her and invested the money and bought the books. Due to this, my daughter got very good interest in reading and in short time she was able to learn reading skills. She used the kit I bought every effectively and took active interest in reading. It had its own benefits in recent times which I will not detail now. 

Now it makes me wonder the strange circumstances which attracted something that we would never have thought of 

Example 2: Recently one of my friends had a new baby and we were wondering what to send as a gift. We shopped online and finally decided to send a Diaper bag as a gift. After my friend received the gift, he called me to say that this is exactly the thing they had a bad need of. It was timely gift.

As a reciprocation they also had sent a gift of Baby Monitor. Again it was the exact item I was planning to buy but didn't get to. 

When I realized the 'timeliness' of things in both cases above, I realized there is a certainly some mysterious thing that makes things happen. 

Example 3:

I owned a cell phone for more than 2 years. As you know electronic gadgets are changing very fast in technology. My cell phone was a bigger model compared to new sleek and smart models that are coming up in the market. I thought I should buy a new one, but didn't focus much on that. During Jan 2003, suddenly my cell phone stopped working. It stopped receiving calls and started to malfunction. I called up the service provider and after some calls they suggested me to buy a new phone. I went to store and got a new phone. Obviously this was a sleek model and has advanced features like Vibrate ring style and Voice Dialing and other features. 

Though I didn't realize, it had some obvious features. When my second daughter was born I was able to use vibrate feature effectively while I was staying at hospital as it is not allowed to have cell phones ringing within hospitals (at that time the rule was not in place to switch off cell phones in hospitals). It was for my own good that I HAD to change my cell phone. 

I do have experienced this many times and the above are just a few examples. 

Summary

Whether it is a happy occasion or unhappy occasion in our life, we get what we deserve and though at the moment it may seem incorrect thing to happen, after some time we may realize it was a good thing to happen. 

I have seen some people who lost their job due to economic down turn actually get into a better job and into a better life. Though there was a temporary stress and problems associated with the apparent ill fate, things were good in the long run. When we read personal experiences of some of the successful people we find that difficult times made them become better. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. 

Are there any occasions in your life where you felt you were in the right place at the right time? Did you ever experience that you got a right thing at the right moment? Did you ever feel that some thing you felt was a unhappy event, was not really unhappy event in the long run?

By adopting an attitude "Every thing is for our own good" (in my native language it is called: Anta Mana Manchike), I found that I was able to maintain 

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